Monday, September 5, 2011

The Hardest Post

This is a horribly difficult post to write. Some of our closest family and friends will know that there have been some significant problems in our house. We have tried not to focus on those things here on our blog for obvious reasons. However, the reality for some time has been that one member of our family was not thriving.

After much careful thought and prayer – and consultation with professionals and friends – we have come to the difficult decision that Mickey would be best served in another family. This decision was made out of concern for him and for the other three children in our home. Mickey is currently staying in another state and will not return to live with us. His needs – physical, emotional, and spiritual – are going to be met.

We won’t go into detail here about all the things that led to this – that wouldn’t be fair to anyone involved. We are asking that our friends, family, and blog readers would keep us in your prayers – our family here at home and Mickey in his new home. We have already received some confirmation that the right decision was made, but that still does not make it easy. There is a measure of sadness, but also an element of relief.

In the days to come, we will continue to try to minister healing in our children, who have experienced so much pain in their young lives. We know our God delights in redeeming the difficult. We are trusting in that faith and resting in the peace that only He can give.

All we hold is frail and brief, patched together by belief,
The pattern only partially revealed for us to see.
What are tears but seeds we sow? In fields unseen such harvests grow
Whose joys will one day overflow the measure of our grief.

If God is love, then love, we trust, is strong enough to hold our sorrow.
If God is love, He carries us. We will not fear what comes tomorrow.
Love will heal us, for God is love.

13 comments:

Leveta said...

I can so understand your decision in this. I have had similar friends have to make the same decisions and I have to say that if it wasn't for our Sam's developmental delays and his physical ones that we would have been making the same decisons. I will be praying for you and your husband the other children,for Mickey and the family he is going to.Praying God's peace and direction too.
Leveta

Melissa said...

Amy & Matt,

That is what mommies and daddies do - make those tough decisions out of love. No one doubts your love for him or the other children in your home. This decision was hard, prayed over, cried over I'm sure. We will pray for God's peace and healing over all of you.

Pam said...

Big big hugs to your family, Amy! I honestly expected that coming after your post about him being with friends in WI. I don't know...something just registered in my heart when that was written. I know you haven't given me details on it, I can imagine what things might have been like in your house leading up to this decision. Prayers for healing for you and all your children. Call if you need to talk! Or FB me or whatever! I'm here to listen...I understand.

Craig D said...

I'm not sure that there are words that can be said here, but we will definitely be in prayer for your family. My heart is heavy for you!

Marie said...

I can't imagine all you've been through! There are no words to ease the pain. I'm so sorry! We love you and appreciate you and we're praying for you all!

Wes And Nina said...

ugh...praying for you guys, amy. Can't even imagine. xoxoxoxoxo

Anonymous said...

Amy, I've read several blogs this week in which parents have had to make that same decision just in the last few days, for the best interest of the rest of the family. I'm sorry this has been so difficult, such a long year for you and your family. As others have said, we'll pray for peace for you and all involved. The older I grow, the more I appreciate the deep value of peace. Love, Shawnee

Kris said...

So sorry, Amy....we are praying for you and your entire family. I know that you both did everything that you could to help Mickey. I pray that you will now experience healing throughout your family, and the peace that transcends all understanding will comfort you. {{HUGS}}

Coral Rose said...

May you all feel His comfort. My love to you all.

Richelle said...

Love and prayers for all of you after having to make such a hard decision. God will see you through...

Kendon and Wendy said...

Matt and Amy--praying for you guys. Kendon

Kjernalds in Sweden said...

Amy and Matt,

I have worked with and seen a few such case and I weep with you and am holding you up to Jesus. Thank you for being willing to be used by Jesus to bring him home and then to make the heart ripping decision for his future.

...the outcome of the cases I worked with was children who are stable, loved and redeemed...

Praying for the whole family,

love,
laurie

Missy and Trav said...

I have been so very out of the blogging world for too long, and must apologize that I just returned today, to our own blog even, and noticed a difference here. That led me to search for this post. I pray wholeheartedly that your family is healing and thriving now, and praise you for making those difficult decisions out of love. The newest pictures you had taken warm my heart! You and Matt are amazing parents, and your children are so very precious!
Blessings,
Missy